Friday, June 25, 2021

Has Corona killed someone close to you?

 Priya is a journalist in a famous media house.  Covid has been reporting for some time now.  It was not an option to work in these difficult times bacause Priya provides for herself and her parents from her own salary.  Ever since the first lockdown in March, Priya has been plagued by a fear that my parents will get angry because of me.  Priya took as much care as she could for that.  Take a bath when you come home, wash and cook every vegetable in detergent, put sanitizer in every room of the house, etc.  But in the end, what was feared happened.  Priya's father got angry and despite making all his contacts as per the current situation, Priya did not get a hospital bed for her father for 3 days.  The situation was deteriorating when I barely got to bed but by then it was too late.  For the next 2 days Priya's father fought hard with death but in the end what he was afraid of happened.  He breathed his last 15 days ago today.

 Corona has probably picked up one member from each family and if this continues it will probably be the opposite.  In such circumstances it is very important for our mental health that we understand what effect it has on our mental health when someone close to us dies and how we should cope with it.

 The process by which our mental state passes through after the death of a close relative is called griff.  Griff usually has this stage after any death:

 Deny: Usually when we hear the news of death, we reject it instead of accepting it for a while.

 Aggression: Anger towards God, society or anyone in such a way that you are responsible for the death of those close to me and that means anger and revenge.  Many doctors fall prey to this anger despite all efforts to save the patient.

 Bargaining: This is the next stage in which we pray to God why he didn't take my life instead of taking that person's life or we try to convince ourselves that what happened happened for good and now it's  The person is in a place where he is happy or finds peace.

 Depression: In the next stage, we mourn the loss of that person, along with all other things, and become truly frustrated that the person has moved away from us.

 Acceptance: In the end we move on with life by accepting reality.

 One way of coping with the death of every race in our society is a culture.  Each race has different rituals with the corpse and then in its mourning.  This whole process is called morninging.  The rituals of this society help us to digest reality.  From cremation to twelfth, thirteenth, feeding the parents, throwing bones, people coming home to bury, etc.

 If someone close to us has lost someone, how can we comfort them ?:

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 Instead of trying to recover, they wallow in their sadness and thus, experience more failure.

 Remind me of good memories of that difficult time.

 They try to reach the stage of rejection and the stage of anger as easily as possible.

 Even though it is very difficult, the social processes have to be done in a way that maintains technology and social distance.

 Enjoying and chewing on the good memories of his life.

 Provide an environment where he can speak his mind.  Give them the shoulder you need when they want to cry when you lose someone close.

 It is very easy for any close relative to push a person to make a mistake in difficult times.  But it is our duty to stand up for the person who is doing the hard work.

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